HBSer Princess

Mainstream society calls me a freak, transgender activists call me a traitor, and a sizable portion of radical feminists, a group of women I stick up for on a constant basis, call me a deluded, mutilated man. It would seem that there is no escaping the vitriol: everywhere I go, I am guaranteed to encounter people who hate me. 

I have closed my inbox and I will be stepping back from Tumblr until further notice. Recovering from major surgery is hard enough without the added element of seeing comments about how vile and disgusting my body is in my activity feed or discussions on my dashboard about the warped symbolic significance my anatomy now supposedly carries. 

witchhazel-rose:

transcultist:

I had genital reconstruction surgery because it was clear to me that it was the only way to permanently manage my dysphoria and give myself a chance at a happy and productive life.

What purpose does making posts about how gross neovaginas are serve other than to shame people like me for our bodies? Society at large already loves to mock transsexual people and cast us as something alien or mutated; are you sure that “radical activism” is what you are engaging in here?

"Neovaginas" are often said (by transwomen) to look exactly like a real woman’s vulva and vagina, which is incredibly offensive. :-)
Also? A chopped off, inverted dick is gross. No two ways around it.

Exaggerating the cosmetic results of GRS is “incredibly offensive,” but deriding the bodies of marginalized people who are by and large just doing our best to survive as “gross” is totally fine? Fascinating.

Tell me, is it fun pretending to be subversive and radical while making comments that one would generally expect to hear from a drunken frat boy?

Are you into lolita? The style, not the creepy shit. It almost seems that way from the dreses you reblog.
Anonymous

I love classic lolita, particularly in its more subdued form. Lately I have finally started to incorporate pieces from that style into my wardrobe, which is exciting.

I had genital reconstruction surgery because it was clear to me that it was the only way to permanently manage my dysphoria and give myself a chance at a happy and productive life.

What purpose does making posts about how gross neovaginas are serve other than to shame people like me for our bodies? Society at large already loves to mock transsexual people and cast us as something alien or mutated; are you sure that “radical activism” is what you are engaging in here?

betweenqueerandradfem:

evilfeminist:

Because the human body treats the new vagina as a wound, any current technique of vaginoplasty requires some long-term maintenance of volume (vaginal dilation), by the patient, using medical graduated dilators, dildos, or suitable substitutes, to keep the vagina open. It is very important to note that sexual intercourse is not an adequate method of performing dilation.”

How is this radical feminist activism, instead of shaming transsexual women’s bodies? I’m sure it’s factually correct and everything, it’s used as a weapon right now.

So can we get back to actual gender critique and feminism instead of humiliating another marginalised group? Trans women are male, they have male socialization they need to unlearn in order to stop harming females. Targeting their bodies like this is not doing anything to motivate them to work on that learning process, but it is harming them. Not because they’re male (privileged), but because they’re trans (oppressed).

So please, keep personal transphobia out of gender critical analysis, it’s poison. Oh and go ahead, rant and rave and accuse and curse at me, i don’t mind. We probably both know that disgust of trans women is a thing in this community anyway.

hahaha, oh my god, you are one of the last people on the planet I would associate with Toni. you really remind me more of snowflakeespecial, but even then. that ask was incredible. unrelated - hope you're recovering okay! sending many good vibes your way <3
Anonymous

I am fairly sure it was a troll message, but I was happy to take the bait; I always welcome an opportunity to make fun of Toni D’Orsay.

Thank you for the well wishes!

crown-tea:

Alice and the Pirates for an adventurous day!

coolfuneral:

How the fuck can you just walk up to a woman you don’t know and ask her “are you transsexual?” and then say you could tell by her body type. AND THEN say “it’s okay, I’m into that” and ask her if she’s free on Saturday??? What kind of fucking deluded piece of shit are you where you think that’s even remotely okay???
Male entitlement has to stop. Men have to take accountability. This can’t be tolerated.

Sorry to disappoint you, but as a transsexual woman who is consistently read as female I can tell you with certainty that men act with just as much entitlement in their interactions with “cis” women. The idea that women can escape sexual harassment by virtue of not being transsexual is laughable.

do you think you'd ever go into hardcore trans activism like toni d'orsay?
Anonymous

One of my goals in life is to avoid doing anything like Toni D’Orsay.

I think that I am off to a pretty good start, since I have yet to murder anyone or spam feminist tags with tragic pictures of myself.

shortcuttothestars:

Looking super cute for tea and pie with dkmissanya <3 I’d forgotten that riding a bike, in the summer, in lolita is not the best idea… Quite the workout!

Cardigan: Thrifted
Dress: Bodyline (modified)
Tights: Thrifted
Shoes: Market in Italy 8 years ago x)